Being a grown up ruins books. When I was in my twenties my favourite Lord of the Rings character was Eowyn. This was partly because Tolkein didn’t give me that many female role models to choose from, and partly because she kicked arse.
She was the first heroine I met who put on trousers and rode out to fight with the guys. It was awesome and yes, why shouldn’t she have been allowed to do it? Girl power rocks!
Now I’m in my thirties I look at the choice Eowyn made, and my responsible adult purses her lip and frowns.
‘Uncle Theo told her to look after his people. Who’s running Edoras while she’s off gallivanting? And she’s doing it all for Aragorn who doesn’t even love her! Grow up young lady and put some gender appropriate clothing back on, this instant.’
Seriously, how did I become that?
Oh yeah, I grew up.
I’m still struggling to completely silence my responsible adult, but as my forties crawls inevitably closer I’m craving that rule defying, courageous freedom buzz. Something needs to burst the apathy bubble before I wake up in my seventies and realise I’ve spent an entire lifetime being the good girl who always asks nicely.
After all, didn’t Eowyn help to change the course of the battle of Pellinore Fields? (No living man am I, douche bag!), and didn’t she also find a man that she loved who would actually love her in return? (Ok, it is kind of disappointing to think of her locked up in Minas Tirith having Faramir’s babies, but there’s no sequel to confirm that, right?)
Breaking the rules and taking risks can pay off and be good for your soul. It is time for me to remember that. It’s time to go a bit wild again.
My answer was to go and do a burlesque course. I’ve meaning to do it for ages, but I was waiting for arse to stop being so big.
Still, there is nothing like wearing suspenders in a room full of other people (also wearing suspenders) to realise you are all out of your comfort zone together.
Upshot is, I didn’t trip over my heels and land on my face. Or if I did, I would have looked damn sexy doing it.
‘Smile, ladies, and the audience will forgive you anything.’
So look for ways to channel your inner shield maiden. Break the routine, try something different, be alive. Have a look at these inspiring websites;
Rebelle – currently down for maintenance, but worth persevering.
Blog of Badassery (oh, yes, that is a word)